Tag Archives: parenting

John Waters Commencement Speech

There’s a lot I could quote from this video, but it’s ALL worth watching/reading (and being John Waters, you bet your ass it’s delightfully NSFW). This is the most relevant – I feel – to what I partially hope to accomplish with Giraffe Party… “And, parents, vice-versa: You don’t get to order up your kids, either. […]

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OUTSIDE READING: Why Adults Get a Pass When Kids Don’t

“What neurodivergent kids are really learning when we call events expected and unexpected is what we neurotypicals find comfortable and pleasing and what we find uncomfortable and displeasing. Unexpected language patterns are ‘non-functional’ because they are not goal-oriented, they don’t accomplish a task. How boring.” – “Functional language,” shoes, and why adults get a pass when […]

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You Do Not Own Your Daughter

Getting really tired of seeing this meme. How about you teach your daughter that her self-respect and education are the top priority in her life? Teach her that fashion is one thing, respecting her body and mind is another. Social interaction with boys is fine. Teaching her to have self-respect and the power of will […]

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Double Standards

“There is a huge double standard when it comes to how we talk about Autistic people. When we refuse to judge parents who harm their children emotionally, yet harshly judge Autistic people who speak out against this type of treatment, what exactly are we telling the world about Autistic lives?” – Parenting Autistic Children with Love […]

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Choose Your Internet Words Wisely

“I talk all the time about why I think it’s so absolutely, positively, completely necessary to be respectful of our children (and their neurology) when we talk about them online. I talk about how desperately necessary it is to respect their privacy. And, above all, I preach my gospel of never publicly saying anything about […]

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PARENT QUESTION: How Do I Handle Sensory-Related Food Rejection?

“I am torn on the food issue. My son is very limited on what he will eat and my daughter (both are autistic) is beginning to reject more food. Should I just make the one meal and that’s dinner take it or leave it, or should I just make them their own meals that I […]

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PARENT QUESTION: Why “Attack” Autism Parents For Saying Parenting is Hard?

A reader posed an interesting question to me earlier this morning, in a comment thread on a previous post. “No one gets mad at NT parents when they say this is hard or when their child struggles with something and so they have to give extra attention to them to resolve the issue. Why attack […]

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Extra Work

“Parenting an autistic child is hard work!” “Parenting an autistic child requires extra work!” Let’s get something straight: being a parent is hard work. Period. Nobody can deny that. There are struggles, there are rewards. There are lots of “Holy s**t!” moments and plenty of heartmeltingly sublime moments. No matter what your child(ren)’s neurology, being […]

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